I have not blogged in years! I’m blogging today for many reasons but I want documents showing what is happening. I debated on writing this on my work computer but I want something just in case. I don’t know what will happen and if anything happens to me or my family this is here. With all that said let me get into this. I think this is harder than any other blog I have written. I’m sick.. the anxiety.. my stomach is constantly in knots. I don’t know why anyone would do this.
I found out my best friend was pregnant May 13, 2023. I decided we should go on a double date. My best friend and her boyfriend. My husband and I. We decided to go to a bar but we could not decide which bar to go to. We decided to meet up at my best friends house and decided where to go. Parker and I should up and we were waiting for my best friends boyfriend to get there so Parker and I sat on the couch. My best friend was still getting ready so she was back and forth between her bathroom and the front room. On one of those trips to the front room where Parker and I are sitting. She stops and asks “do I look different?” I said “no” and Parker said no and she says “Okay and walks off.” I did not let that slide and followed her to her back room to her laundry room. I stopped her and said “You can’t do that. What is going on?” She said “I found out I’m pregnant” I was so thrown off but super excited. I started to ask questions like anyone else. You see my best friend had her tubes tied. I took her to the hospital to get her tubes tied in 2020.
Here is her story.
I went in to the Huntsmen Cancer Institute for a uterus (womb) cancer screening because my mom has had uterine cancer. While I was there they did and ultrasound and the ultrasound tech stopped and went to get the doctor. The doctor came in and told me that I’m pregnant, that I’m 14 weeks pregnant with a girl.
Back to my story.
I thought wow what are the chances of that! I even googled the chances. It’s 1/1000 after the first year, and between 2-10/1000 after 5 years. That is 3 years. The chances are slim to none. I remember thinking dang I can’t believe this happened. Then I thought what are the chances of this baby going to full term. I also thought how would this cancer place know how far along she was? Or the gender. I asked her that and she simple says “ they put the ultrasound thing on her belly and there she was with her legs spread. You can see it plan as day.”
As we all got ready for a new baby I always felt like my best friend was stuck on her boyfriend and how he lied and how she can’t see how to forgive him. It got to a point to where I did not want to talk to her because it was always about him. It was never about the baby. I would have to push to get details. When she was about 19 weeks she begged me to take photos of her. She did not look pregnant and I got frustrated because why not wait tell you show. What’s the hurry for..
she says she wants these photos because she want to do something special for her boyfriend for Father’s Day.
I reluctantly took the photos. I will post them when I know I’m safe to do so. While we were taking those photos I asked “so have to gone in and gotten your 20 week scan yet? Or get a high risk doctor?” She simply answers with “not yet, I should get on that.”
She was at my house for dinner one night and I could tell she was not okay so I asked if she wanted to see something in my room. Where she started to cry and say how scared she is because she could have cancer and she is pregnant and she doesn’t know if baby will live. She said she has to have a high risk doctor because they don’t know if she has cancer and can’t do the testing because she is pregnant.
Those photos that I took she sent to her boyfriend from my phone right after we were done.
As time went on we would talk and Marco Polo but not as much as we use to. My friend use to come over often for dinner. It was odd behavior for her to ghost me. I had surgery and she did not show up at all. Shortly after this surgery I Marco poloed her and called her out. I told her that every time I talk to her she doesn’t talk about the baby (who has a name now) and that I have to push to get any answers. She replied back with a well you’re always busy. I trie to call and Jayse has your phone. Or when I do come over you’re busy. The time she is referring to is when she called one Saturday and says “I need to go ti Costco and I don’t think I can drive I’m so tired do you think you can take me” I was cleaning my garage and Parker and I made those plans a while ago.. I once again ditch Parker to take her.. on that trip I asked did you finally get that 20 week scan and she says simply yes.. I went on so you got to see the heart? She just says “yes, everything is great!” and that was it. On that trip I got her a key lime pie for her birthday and she said I won’t eat this all you hang on to it and I will come back and eat some.. she came back got a piece but I had to help Parker so I was in the garage and she left and said she would come back but never did.
Now fast forward to when she was supposed to be 26 weeks pregnant and I threw her a baby shower. Last min, her moms was supposed to plan this and I get the feeling now that her mom knew it was fake,
The stress that I went through for this shower was unreal. I spent a lot of money on it as well. But that is a whole other story. I noticed a few things at this shower. My friend did not look like she was 26 weeks pregnant. She looked the same as the day we went at room picture of her at 19 weeks. I know pregnancy looks different for everyone but it was weird that she did not change at all.
Her mom did not buy her any gifts.
But I will go on to two days after this shower. I got a phone call at 10:50pm on a tue. If you know me you know I’m asleep.
I did not notice this call tell the morning. She also sent some photos of blood on her bed and on her floor.
I left work and called her and said what hospital are you at and she says “I’m at my moms” I told her I’m on my way. I got there and she was sitting on the couch and she just looks tired.
I asked how did this happen and she said she was not feeling good the night before and just went to bed. She said she woke up and was shivering, sweating, and just not feeling good. She said she got clothes on and went to the insta care to get checked out. She said she did not know she was bleeding tell she got there and the nurse says “did you sit on something” and they figured out it was blood. They took her right back and tried to find a heart beat and could not find one so they sent her to the er. She delivered the baby and checked herself out. I asked if she saw the baby and she said no. I asked if she was going to do a funeral and she said no. She said that she has people cleaning her house right now because she did not know she was bleeding when she left and sent me the photos of it and I asked how did you get those photos and she said her neighbor sent them to her. Parker then came and got me and I picked her car up at dees. Her car had no blood and no discharge papers.
I then dropped her car off and went to get her some coffee, got that and took it to her. When she saw parker and Parker hugged her she lost it. I find it weird that she did not do that with me.. she told me earlier that she need to go see her Obgyn, I dropped off the coffee and told her to get some sleep and I will bring her dinner that night. She never talked about going to the doctor. I find it off because don’t you thing she would say things like my doctor thinks this or that?
I went home and cooked dinner and got it to her at 7, We sat and talked and they mentioned going away for the week they had off. I looked at Parker and told her to go to the cabin and they went that night. While there she swam in a lake.
I started to question if she was really pregnant. Things were not adding up. I went to the dollar store with her and she did not really Talk about the baby.. she talked about her boyfriend and having problems with him again..
I then told a couple of people my thoughts.. a few have had children and Miscarriages.. mind you she has a stillborn not a miscarriage. What stuck out the most is my sister who is now 14 weeks pregnant sent me a photo of an ultrasound she got.
I remember thinking.. I have only seen one and I did not physically see it I just saw a photo of it.. I then screenshot the photo that she posted and looked at the names and things and noticed they but something on top that I know they can’t. So then I googled “How to tell if an ultrasound is fake” I clicked on the first website and read through it and then right there in blue says make your own fake ultrasound and I clicked on that and for some reason I clicked on the 20 weeks. Which my the way the ultrasound did not look like 14 weeks.
And bam.. my heart dropped to my butt! It’s the SAME photo!! Also the date at the top is for May 11, 2023 she would have been 14 weeks so my is it a 20 week ultrasound?
How.. why! I just don’t get it. I am sick! She is a sick person. Someone who does that is mental!
I confronted said friend and she kept saying this could ruin my career.
Here is why I’m questioning things.
If she did find out she was pregnant from the cancer place they would to a vaginal ultrasound. You would not see the baby as big as it is also how would they know how far along and what gender? You would think legally they would not be able to tell her that and tell her to go to an Obgyn.
Also the ob would confirm she is pregnant with more ultrasound and a blood draw.. I heard nothing of this and in fact she told me she has only ever had two ultrasound. One at the cancer place and one for 20 weeks and when I asked where are those she said they are on a cd. Lie
Also if she was pregnant she would be high risk and they would do multiple ultrasound. I mean I was not high risk with any of my children but I always had 3 or more. I know I was so excited to show the new ones when I got them.
Let’s go to when she “had” the baby.
I could have believed her but I remember thinking and still think that is not a lot of blood. It looks like a period. I also remember when I miscarriage at 9 weeks I was in pain! And bleeding so much that it filled the tub. 4 of the people I talked to said the same thing. I asked if she was in a lot of pain and she said no it happened so fast, I felt some cramping when I first got up. Lie
I asked Parker later on if her boyfriend was there and got her from the hospital and parker said he was not in the hospital that he picked her up outside of it cuz remember she checked herself out. She sent me a photo of her in the “hospital” it’s of her belly and her arm around it. She has a hospital band on and when you zoom in she blurred out the date and left her name. Why?
Another thing that has me floored is she never got anything for this baby.. no clothes.. all that I remember her getting is a memory box.. I thought that was odd because that would not be my first thought it would be everything else I would need.
It was after the shower that I thought she is finally excited about this..all the rest of the time she just stressed. She never really posted about the baby tell after the shower.
When I left her moms house. She was worried about changing shoes because she bled in her slippers.. the blood was purple. I thought how odd is that..
I also thought was odd that the neighbor took photos of the blood and sent it to her. I would not do that.. I would not want that person who I was helping to be embarrassed or think about it.
All these things are just not adding up.
I asked her when I confronted her about the ultrasound and she said “I don’t know how they got my ultrasound but they did” the website was created in 2020. I also asked where is the blood in your car if it was all over the house and she said “I had a towel that I used in my boyfriend truck.”
Hum.. I thought you did not know you were bleeding? Also when you leave the hospital they give you pads so why would you need it?
I don’t know why she did this and it makes me sick!
Here is the website
https://babymaybeshop.com/shop/fake-ultrasounds-sonograms/20-weeks/
Here it’s is 3 weeks later and I’m slowly feeling better and I know day by day things will get better. I’m super hurt! Mostly embarrassing that I fell for her lies. Embarrassing because this was a person I loved hole heartedly and my heart is broken that someone I love so much and trusted so much could do something like this it’s just sick!
I decided to talk to my boss because I took time off for this lie and I did not want to loose my job. I love my job! She asked me to speak with the head of our department, so I did but little did I know that he is a police officer and by law he has to say something so that in turn started an investigation into her. She after all is a person of trust. Today I found out they closed the investigation. I was instructed to continue with victims advocate. Which tells me she either got into trouble with her job or she got fired. Again I never set out to do that. I was just trying to cover my own behind. But let’s just say it’s an added bonus. With all this said.. if I was lying or was wrong why would they reprimand her? It just show you and me that I was sadly not wrong. In a way I hopped I was. It’s easier to apologize than to deal with the feelings I’m left with knowing that she indeed lied. I don’t know what is going to happen, I don’t know if she will try to get back at me or just move on. I don’t know how I’m supposed to move on. I know I will and I know that I will get past this and hopefully laugh at her and at this but for now I just feel sick!